You are not the way you are because of your birth chart. Your birth chart is the way it is because of who you are.
Your birth chart is not the cause of who you are; it is your mirror. This means that the scenarios reflected in your chart are not a destiny carved in stone. If you are willing to change yourself, you can move beyond many of the patterns your chart describes. But if you close yourself off to anything new and refuse to change, your chart becomes your destiny.
This simple idea matters deeply, yet it can be difficult to grasp and put into practice. Nothing in my birth chart reading sessions is more important than this.